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Super questions to consider as we write.

I’m not in the midst of a memoir, so my views will be different of course, yet I think I am grasping your deeper thoughts.

I also do not believe one need a road map to begin. It’s rather like the way I build a jigsaw puzzle. Some folks HAVE to build the edge first, to contain the creation of the interior. Nothing wrong with that approach at all! (It’s just not how I would do it, and I find it kinda boring and confining). I seldom build the edges first, unless the puzzle is all one color. And since our lives are certainly not one color, I would not do that with a memoir.

Similar to the way I begin puzzles where I start with one colorful unique area, I would first write (as I do in my essays) about a striking moment in time. Then in the chapter I would add the pieces around that time, but I doubt very much I would reorder these chapters to be sequential in a book unless one piece created the experience for another.

I love that you are writing so that your kids will one day know you deeply. That feels very meaningful. Are you telling them stories from your lived life, colored by your feelings and confusions?

I imagine your life being told like a story Mark Twain might write…. Each adventure giving a bit more insight to your the outcome of the man you’ve become as their dad.

Just a thought.

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