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Holly MathNerd's avatar

I have known many Christian families who homeschool for religious reasons and short-change their kids on academics, so I share many of your concerns. There absolutely are families that restrict the opportunities of their daughters in this manner. It happens. I can name names. But it's not universal by any means. I also know young women whose parents recognized that the social pressure of trying to deal with the boys' hormones and the girls' social machinations were taking up their daughter's every minute at the expense of academics. I am on-call to help with the math for two of them, if they get stuck. They're doing calculus in ninth and tenth grades, respectively, and are more confident. Girls often lose all confidence in adolescence, and that has a lot to do with schools that are toxic in various ways. The parents have to be committed to providing friendship and community and socialization in other ways, but if they are, it can be a very good option for some kids and some families (key word, of course, "some").

I also think you may underestimate how bad the schools are in some areas--how much it's purely political indoctrination, at the expense of academics. I personally know a 7 yr old whose second grade class gets read books about transgender issues so often that he spent weeks in tears, his parents having no idea what was wrong, until he finally confessed that he was sad because he doesn't want to be a lady when he grows up. He had gotten the idea from being read books about transition daily in school (yes daily, his parents were able to verify this as part of an investigation with the school in the course of trying to get the teacher to read books about other things) that it was part of growing up--everyone has to become the other sex when they get bigger. 3 of 22 students in his class are transitioning (so far). I have no laundry in my apartment so I pay a local 16 year old to do my laundry at his house. He tells me that about 25% of his class identifies as trans on some level, some making medical modifications and some not, and that it gets talked about in every class, nearly every day, but he doesn't mind because he can usually get a lot of his homework done while various teachers check to see if anyone's pronouns have changed since the day before. (To be fair it's Vermont, so cobalt blue and likely more extreme here than in many places, but still, Vermont kids deserve to learn math and science and other things besides pronouns, too.)

All that to say -- homeschooling isn't a monolith and it's a good choice for some kids and some families.

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Jonathan Byrd's avatar

It’s great that millions of children have parents who don’t make them stay in broken school systems. Public school didn’t fit me, and it doesn’t fit my son. We’re not religious. I just care about my son’s education. I asked the local principal where his daughters go to school. It’s a private school in Durham. That tells you all you need to know.

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